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October 18, 2018

Building A Better You: Non-Violence Responses

This year, Fight For Life announced the “Build A Better You Challenge” with Jack and Jill Magazine. In this series, Marlin Jackson sets out the building blocks that students need in order to live the life they want. As someone who grew up in humble circumstances and was able to overcome a broken home and drug-fueled neighborhood, Marlin knows all about what it takes to fight for a better life.

In the fifth issue, Marlin teaches readers about the importance of Non-violence: “When I was 11, I moved in with my aunt and uncle, and the stability that came with it allowed me to begin processing and assessing what I had learned earlier in life. This change was the beginning of my journey to the person I am today: a man who has learned and continues to learn that the best way to solve any problem is by taking peaceful and thoughtful actions. By learning self-control and thinking about the consequences of your actions, you can find a nonviolent solution to any problem.”

Last month, we talk about non-violence. Specifically, Coach Marlin’s winning strategy for non-violence:

1. During a heated argument, take some time to step away and calm down.
2. Act as a mediator between friends who are arguing.
3. If you believe a conflict might become physical, keep your distance and don’t give the other person a reason to feel threatened.
4. If someone has engaged you in an uncomfortable conversation, let them say what they want to say. Interrupting or not paying attention to them might make them more angry and lead them to act irrationally.
5. Remember that hurting others never solves anything — it only makes things worse.

Students from around the United States submitted their answers to our two questions on non-violence, and we’ve got the winning responses below. If your child would like to participate in our Build A Better You Challenge, head on over to this page to find out how they can win an autographed photo from Marlin Jackson and other prizes throughout the year!

We’re asking our readers:
1. What does Nonviolence mean to you?
2. How do you show Nonviolent at home, in school, or in your community?

There are always two solutions to a problem, nonviolence is the first solution. At school when there’s a conflict, I use communication instead of physical violence.
Gabrielle, 10, MI

Nonviolence means using no guns or playing violent video games. The most popular video game right now is violent. I think parents should stop buying their kids’ violent video games and read magazines like Jack and Jill. In my home, I show nonviolence by the most popular video game is violent and it’s free on my console though I didn’t get it.
Sam, 7, PA

Everything I love to be kind. I help special ed kids in class.
Charlotte, 8, OH

I think it means trying not to fight but show peace. I show nonviolence by talking and not yelling when someone disagrees with me.
Kelsey, 8, WI

It means not killing as many animals as we do now By not getting into a fight about picking on someone because how small or big they are.
Kenzie, 8, WI

To not take bad things in an aggressive way. At home, I try to be nonviolent when my sister is being mean. I tell my parents. At school when someone is being a bully, I just walk away and tell the teacher.
Cohen, 11, WI

If someone is fighting, they can just go somewhere they can be alone. At home I’m nice. At school I am nice and I help people in the community.
Braelyn, 7, TX

To me, nonviolence means not to use violence to solve problems or win. God said in the Bible, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.” Play fair, don’t get angry, and don’t fight claim stuff.
Emerson, 9, TX

To be peaceful. Don’t hurt people.
Aniket, 8, MN

To me, it means kind words, kind movements. Nice thoughts, helping others, and amazing words. Let God help you. Let your friends help you. Never hurt anyone.
Palmer, 9, VT

I believe that there is no yelling, fighting, or getting hurt by someone. When I get into an argument with my friends, I talk it out and I wave to people in my mom and dad’s car to make them smile. Also in my school, I help my friend if they are sad or hurt. Lastly, I am the best I can be at being kind!
Baylee, 10, WI